....faith and life....life and faces

Love and Marriage

Marriage is a Sacrament

Christian  marriage  shall  reflect  the  love and  trust of Christ for His Church. He loves His Church despite all her faults and imperfections, and He does not leave her. The prototype of  this link between Christ and His Church is  already  shown in  the  love  of  God  for  His people, Israel, in  the  Old Testament.  He  faithfully accompanied  them  through  all  times. This "covenant of God with  His  people" is mentioned repeatedly in the Bible in terms of the image of a marriage. (Isaiah 50,1; Jeremiah 2,2; 5,7).

The unconditional faithfulness of God and Jesus Christ to humanity and the Church should be mirrored in the love of the spouses.  This love can correspond so closely  to  Christ's  relationship  with  the Church that it is not only an image of His love,  but  that  His love itself is becoming present through the love of the married couple.  For this reason,  Paul calls matrimony a "profound mystery".

What happens between two people on a minor scale takes place between Christ and the Church on a large scale.  Thus,  God  can be experienced in the love of the spouses.  Therefore, the Christian marriage is a Sacrament, a sign, a place and  means  for  divine  action.  It is not  merely a  community for the purposes of financial convenience or an institutionalized form of procreation and child raising.

Church wedding

A church wedding is more than just an  extra  blessing compared to a civil ceremony. A man and a woman commit themselves to each other before a priest or deacon  and  at  least  two  witnesses,  but  usually  a  larger  community,  and thereby administer to each other the Sacrament of Matrimony.  The validity of a marriage of Catholics is tied to this rite of the Church, which, like every other Sacrament, has its own distinct form.

The community participates in this celebration and learns that God becomes present in a special way in the  Sacrament of Matrimony not only to the spouses, but also to the members of the community. However, the Sacrament is not limited to the Church wedding but is very closely connected to the couple's history, beginning  long before the wedding and ending with their death.

Although  marriage,  especially  the  Christian  marriage,  is   today  being  called into  question,  the majority of couples opt for a Church wedding. This does not seem  to  jibe with  the  generally  suspected  decrease of the Church's credibility and  the distancing of people from the Church.  For this reason we  often hear that for  many  people  the  ceremony at the Church is just a solemn setting for the wedding. However, in  many  cases,  this is not so. Most brides and bridegrooms,  even  those  who seem little engaged in the Church, feel that marriage is an  important point of their  lives  and that the success of their common plans does not depend solely on themselves.

Love and Marriage

Matrimony

is not an invention of Christianity and the churches, but since love and  the  desire to have a permanent relationship are an essential part of  human existence, it is not surprising  that they also have  an important place in the Bible, Christianity, and the Church.

What does the Bible say?
 

The biblical image of the human being and of the relationship between man and woman is shown in the very first chapters of the Bible (Genesis 1-3). "So God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. And God blessed them, and God said to them, 'Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it.'

According to the story of creation the encounter with  woman liberates man from his loneliness. In their conjugal love, the partners "know" each other and become "one body".  The  basic equality of man and  woman is  expressed in a metaphorical  way:  „This at  last is  bone of my bones  and flesh of my flesh", an acknowledgment  of  the  equality of  sexes that was far ahead of its time. "The man leaves father and mother  and commits himself completely to his wife"; this statement seems to be almost  revolutionary  in a patriarchal environment.  But only very slowly does this idea prevail during the course of history.

In the Genesis story of creation, human sexuality is also given its divine  dignity.  But  not  in  the  same  way as in other religions of biblical times, where  sexuality  itself  was  venerated  as  something  divine.  In the Bible, sexuality is part of  human nature and human responsibility, intended to give people   fulfillment  and joy as a gift from God who created it.  The fact that sexuality can become a source of evil and suffering, and a way for men to gain dominance  over  women, is  due  to  the  consequences  of sin and is not part of creation.

The basis of matrimony can be found in God's creation and Jesus also sees it this way. He expressly repeats the words of the report on creation. (See Mt 19, 3 - 9;  Mk 10, 2 - 12).  Marriage  was  not  established  by  Him.   On  the  contrary, Jesus refers to  something  that  has always been valid before God: spouses are tied to each other by  God  and  therefore  are not allowed to divorce, nor may man separate them.  With this, He opposes those who refer to Moses and maintain that a man has the right to divorce his wife under certain circumstances.

As marriage is part of God's creation and  exposed to the  consequences of original  sin,  it  also  partakes  in the salvation through Jesus Christ. Paul writes in his letter to the Ephesians (5,31f):  "A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,  and the two shall become one flesh." - Paul compares the marriage of Christians to the relationship between Christ and His Church.    & nbsp;